Girls are a favorite topic of guys and it looks like when a guy and a girl come together, it is the greatest thing know to man. We are made to connect - a guy needs to support a girl and a girl needs to support a guy. A guy seems to value fertility - the girl has to look beautiful so he can go hanky panky with them which creates more humans. But you have the girl has a different value - she could care less about beautiful but she wants someone to support her. The guy basically wants the nurturing thing with girls - a guy just want to lay around and watch football, while the girl will take care of him. But the girl wants some support as well - she wants to be protected and guarded, and want some guy to support her. This goes back to the hunter gathering days - the guy is the great hunter that brings the food to the family while the women in the gatherer and the bearer of children. It seems like the same pattern today as in shopping - men research everything before they buy something, and they check consumer reports, while the women is the one to pick up a pair of shoes when she don't need anything. That's why groceries stores and clothing stores are made for women - they are in a gathering format while the men want a hunt format.
I was actually pretty good with girls when I was in elementary school. That is when everyone was equal and a girl was a girl. If I like the cute girl with the dress and the pigtails, she will make a good friend, and it seems like I had lots of good friends with girls. My teacher did not promote the gender segregation thing and made sure girl-guy sat together in school. In elementary school, you sat in classes where you had partners and a lot of the partners were of the opposite sex. The girls yuck, boys yuck thing is something that was bumped out. I was pretty good with girls because of that. But about fourth grade, the guys had their huge kickball football team and the girls had their small cackle group. It is very hard to talk to girls because girls tend to want to be intimate and guys just want to be part of the pack. Merging girls and guys into the pack is hard - girls want the intimacy.
I was actually pretty good with the intimacy and I had made pretty good friends with girls. I don't think I was involved in a sport and I was raised at home which did not promote as much aggression. But guys tend to hang together in a pack and that goes in college as well. I see the guys want to pack together and frat, while the girls want to sit around and giggle. This might go back to your animal instincts where all the wolves and other animals have to go in packs.
I had actually had been raised well with intimate relationships and I wasn't really bad with the girls in elementary school. I actually even went on dates in elementary school and I had crushes on girls. But that all had changed about high school. I think it might have to do with puberty.
Okay, you have the cute girl with the pigtails when you are in elementary school. When you were young, you just talked with the cute girls with the pigtails then you have the hormones come in and every guys hormones come in at a different rate. There are a lot of guys that want the cute girls with the pigtails and it is competition - so guys have to be competitive and fight it out, and try to make themselves the best so they can get the desired cute girl with the pigtails.
It looks like I was probably, like every other guy, was looking for the obvious, hot girl. Every guy wants the obvious hot girl, but it seems like a certain girl only gets the hot guy. It is probably the more popular guys - the jock always get the cheerleader. But some day, you have this fantasy of the nerd getting the cheerleader and it happens in real life.
In real life, the nerd does get the hot girl. Nerds get money - they create software companies such as Facebook that makes billions and things such as Microsoft that change the world. In the real world, the nerds are the cool people. They create cool things such as the internet and the ability to travel in space and do all this cool stuff. It is very privelege and cool to be in space. But you have the guy with the NFL too, who is considered cool but the people promoting the NFL is even cooler.
I was not looking for the right girl at the right level - it seems like I want blonde cheerleader on my butt, which every other guy wants. I was not considering other things such as common interests and even similar looks - I was probably not even looking a brunettes or redheads. Basically I should I have the elementary school mentality - go after the pigtails and I probably have the date. I probably could care less if she was rich or poor or whatever, it is just the cute girl with the dress and the pigtails.
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