I don't think the golden years of my life has come yet but it looks like I had went over the hump and I had went through the worst times so far. It seems like the last few years had been a tumultous time and there seems to be a lot of pain and sorrow - at least it way a learning experience but eventually I will get through this.
This last year was a year of improvement - I had improved a lot this last year. One year ago, I was unsure what I was going to do in the future, I was in a dysfunctional apartment, it looks like my old friends had left me - I was in a mess, not to mention that I was unemployed and probably not 100% focused. But it seemed like things had changed in the last year - things had changed a lot. The good thing is I got driving and my independence skills had improved significantly, along with my social skills and emotional well being. But I still need to work on some of my social skills, but I had went over the hump.
The counselor had suggested that I need to spend some time in the community and volunteer. I need to get some work experience along with develop my social skills and self confidence. Usually with ADHD, social skills are usually learned at a slower pace and because of the inattentiveness, I was not picking up on social cues such as clothing choices (wearing colors that clash and not having everything buttoned right), personal space issues, and troubles with conversation (talking about things that are inappropriate for the situation and talking about what I want to talk about without considering what others want to talk about.) It looks like I had troubles with the opposite sex and it seems like I have been staring at or following girls that are not interested in me or don't know me, or are taken by somebody else. It seems like I am going after girls I don't know and some of the clothing choices, personal space, and hygiene issues might bother than, along with some of the hyperactive quirks.
But that was back then and it seems like I had improved a lot. I had stopped pacing, my personal space issues are no longer a problem, and I am becoming a better listener, and not just talking about things I just want to talk about. It seems like by high school, I seem to not talk and not iniate - what I should do is to start askiing other kids about their interests and be interested in them instead of having them be interested in me. That will help me make friends. Not everyone is going to come up and be interested in me - but I had this thought that everyone is interested in me but really they are not. But I need to work on iniation and start being a little bit friendlier.
But I can see things are going to improve - I can see some of the behavior problems had been ironed out and I should remember some things.
1. Make sure your clothes match, are buttoned, tucked out, looking nice, hair nice, teeth brushed
2. Personal space is the key - try not to be too close or too far
3. Be interested in someone else besides myself - I am not that important. Ask them about their day, about their interests.
4. Listen - don't interrupt.
5. Try not to fidget - stand up straight or sit up straight and put that smile on!
6. Don't stare at girls that don't stare at me first
It looks like the other things I have problems with such as losing things. I am done with following people but I needto work on being more friendlier to people. When someone says "hi", I should let them know I am here instead of a wussy "hi", it should be a HI!! or something like that. There are many small things I should remember that may help me in a long way.
Organizational skills are a bigger thing - losing car keys, assignments, etc. seem to be a major problem and I need to work on it. I should also remember to do nice things such as open doors and push in chairs - that is going to go a long way. These clumsy quirks are usually with inattentiveness - it is hard to think about personal space and whatnot when you are not attentive, but when your brain is focused, these things will come naturally.
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