Sunday, October 27, 2013

Six months has passed without any grandparents

Six months has passed without any grandparent and my life has changed drastically.  Shortly  after my grandpa died, I lost my ability to drive during the summer time which forced me to ride a bike.  I got around but I did not have that much freedom and my world was very limited, but I got to see the world at a closer level.  I was starting to take a look at the smaller businesses and comb through the town instead of going to the obvious locations - they are many things that are good in the underground than the mainstream, in your face.  Of course, the mainstream in your face is good and it is trustable, but I am starting to see what the more mousier end of the town looks like.

I didn't mind the limited lifestyle but I was getting pretty lonely and there was nobody around that I can relate too.  Everyone has gone their own direction and I was starting to see that on the internet.  I was starting to realize that everyone else is going their own direction; why don't I go my own direction, and I was thinking, what direction should I go?  Everyone is starting to mind their own business and they are in their own world - it looks like everyone else has found their own nest except for me.

My family was gone and all the other relatives are going their own directions - they have found their own families.  My parents have their own hobbies and interests, and I am not really interested in the same path as they are - I rather do other things but you can't change these people.

I go back to the college and I am expecting the roommates to be something that is "spoon fed" and I will like.  They are in their own direction which gives me this sense of loneliness.  It looks like I am having a sense of loneliness because all the people that I know and loved have left me and they are going their own direction, and I feel very lonely indeed.  Eventually, after a few prompts, I have been told that I need to go my own direction myself because everyone else is going their own direction - there is nobody that is built in anymore.  I feel like I don't fit and I am starting to find my nest - where will my new nest be - the new home.  The old has passed by and the new is starting to come in - I got to find out where this should be.

I have been told that this day is going to come and I am going to dread this.  I have been fearing this "real world" because of isolation and loss of connection - where do I fit into this world.  I have no clue.  I have been told that I have been going through this same pattern and not seem to want to get out of it, and I can see this by the purchases that I make with my own money.  I  blew my money on things such as clothes, music, etc. just to fit into a certain group and nobody seems to care anymore.  I have bought myself digital toys such as  computers, Smart TV, and a cell phone, but they had the same function.  The cell phone was the best thing I bought so far - it had a bill but expanded my social life which is a very good investment.  It looks like a lot of things that I am buying just were little "bandages" to make myself feel better, not just to fix the problem itself.

I have been told that I had my "head in the clouds" - no real goals or dreams or anything like that.  I was not thinking about where I was going to fit in the world and the day is going to come.  I am getting the reality check that I can't be this person anymore - everyone is moving on with their life and I am going to be falling behind, making me more and more depressed.  Everyone is moving in their own direction and I haven't really found my direction, and I did not really care.  Everyone is starting to drift away and eventually the home that I was comfortable with is not going to be home anymore.  My friends that I used to like in high school are in their own world now and they expect me to be in my own world.  I can't be wandering around, alone, trying to find a direction in life and holding on to the past, or this same person.  I better change. I was starting to realize that I am not as cool anymore to everyone - I am just an autonomous human being like anyone else that should be doing their thing like anyone else - I am not that special anymore.  Maybe I have been having this feeling that I was "special" and I am not special like anyone else.

I should start having a direction - start having a goal.  What will make me feel special? 

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