Last year was the year I did not have the best social life in college. In fact, I didn't really have that much of a social life at all but I have a feeling that is going to change. I do understand it is the freshman thing that it is not that easy to make new friends in college, but most of these problems are up to me.
Truth is, I did make a few new friends and things are going good in my classes, but sometimes I felt very lonely. But I am going to fix this. Here are some of the reasons why I am not able to have the best social life I expected.
1. The roommates - the roommates that I have are not the coolest kids. I was rooming with people that have some borderline mental disabilities, but I only have ADD. I felt like I didn't fit in so I hid myself in my room.
2. Hiding myself in the room - I have been hiding myself in the room too much, which isolated me from the rest of the world. I should of been of more open and more outgoing to people, and get to know some of the people that live by me. Being stuck with roommates doesn't mean that I am stuck with certain people.
3. Driving - I did not have access to a car which means I am confined to the apartment. What I should of done is tried to get to know the people close by, and be a little bit more friendlier, etc. But when I do have the ability to drive, I can at least go to the mall or to one of the stores or restaurants, etc.
4. Not as interested in some people - a lot of people around me may not interest me. I think it is most likely of a generation gap which was probably was the problem with the roommates the first year I went there. I did not grow up with Eminem and these other people as much as the older generation, and I haven't grown up with Super Mario, Pokemon, etc. They also have different values - many were raised in day cares and there is nothing all I can do about this. But now there may be kids that are raised more at home. I also have been in classes where you see older people, which are on a totally different wavelength as me.
5. Just simply not trying - I think I was having a passive attitude about things and I don't think I was trying to be friendly with other people. Maybe I was having an attitude or maybe I don't really have a defined identity. But I think the thing is it is boiled down to more my attitude and the other people. I have been isolating myself too much - people won't bite.
The problem is that I probably made up my mind what I want but I don't think it exists. The truth is, I don't think I really know what I want. I probably had a messed up values, but this doesn't matter in college because people are exploring and learning about theirselves when they are taking classes. I am learning more and more about myself each time I take classes. With sociology, I may have a better idea of how society works and how I fit into societies. With psychology, I have a better idea of what makes people, including myself tick. With anthropology, I am learning that the college has different lifestyle and I am learning to appreciate my lifestyle, and to understand the other people's lifestyle, I am getting smarter, and next year, I am going to get a more smarter, broader view of the world around me.
But I know the root of my problem is that I may be a little bit too shy, and too much of a stick in the mud, and I need to open up a bit. I should have a more open mind and to think more about other people that myself. I am not trying to hard and I should keep trying. Just like the classes are opening my mind up, I should open my mind up and to understand how normal I am and how weird the other people are.
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