Why does it has to be?

Of course, I am a young guy and such, and I never had a girlfriend, and I am openly looking for a girlfriend, but why does it has to be this way? There is an obsession with sex and hooking up - this has been going on for a long time and I think people are starting to lose the real value of love and relationships.

Of course, sex could be fun, and I never had sex, but it is a wonderful experience.  But there are many things with sex that could cause problems such as STDs and unwanted babies.  I don't want to be stuck raising a child.  I am not ready for this and this is not going to be caused by a good night 9 months ago.  We have condoms and such, but it is a hassle to deal with raising a child that you are stuck with and don't care about. The child is going to be neglected and abused; the child is not loved and a lot of problems happen that way. There is more to sex than a pleasurable experience - babies could be made and I am not ready for BABIES yet.

People don't seem to get that sex is all about creating new life - it is the transformation of genes and for some reason it is supposed to be a pleasurable experience.  Sex is a big money maker, especially in the movie and music industry, and a few other industries, and it is glamorized out of proportion along with food.  Food and sex could be wonderful things - they are biological functions but there are some major consequences - life changing.

I am a virgin and of course I probably have a bad reputation because of this. Really, it is not in the long run.  I have some sense.

Then I value something more - I don't want to screw and dump, I want to actually get to know a girl as a HUMAN BEING, not an object.  I want to get to know a girl as a person.

Every guy has the urge and even the most cleanest, religious moral guys have the urge, but this energy should be used with other things and with the right person.  I don't want to screw around with some random slob - I have standards and I am picky for a reason.  I don't just like ANYONE - I rather have a quality relationship than just a sexual screw and go encounter.